Motherhood places us into an entirely new mind frame. One in which our perspective about self and outlook on life changes completely.
It makes us appreciate the small things and, in an equal measure, also scared of the unknown. We’re suddenly responsible for an entire life, a life where someone else is totally dependant upon us for everything.
Questions of doubt start to consume every thought. Can I provide everything this little person needs? Can I measure up, nurture, and take care of his or her every need or want?
There’s no denying that after becoming a mother, our priorities change, we change. The person we were then is not the person we are now.
In the September cover story of Harper’s BAZAAR, Grammy Award-winning singer Alica Keys fawns over her sons, eight-year-old Egypt and four-year-old Genesis, whom she shares with husband Swizz Beatz.
In the interview, she touches and shares how motherhood has reshaped her life.
“Motherhood gave me a stronger sense of clarity,” the Empire State of Mind singer says. “I used to be less aware of how I wanted to spend my time and more influenced by other people. After I had my kids, I felt like I had found my North Star. I was less wasteful; I worked more effectively.”
Keys does not shy away from being overly affectionate when it comes to loving her boys. On Mother’s Day, she posted a photo of her and her son sharing a loving bond. On the caption, she posted a small insert from her upcoming memoir, More Myself, read, “What if I’m not cut out for motherhood? What if I fail at being responsible for a child—a life? What if I can’t do this? There’s probably not a person on earth who hasn’t asked those questions in some form, at some point in time. The fear of possible inadequacy is real. I felt determined to do for my child what I’d once struggled to do for myself: rid my life of all circumstances that no longer served me.”
Though we as mothers sometimes question every little decision we make when it comes to the betterment of our kids, we learn to embrace the process, take the good with the bad while hoping and praying for the best.