If you’re anything like me, talking about yourself can be harder than pulling teeth.
Top that with the pressure of creating an online dating profile, and suddenly disaster strikes as you find yourself staring at a blank screen.
Creating a dating profile can be a bit scary, or even downright dreadful in some cases. After all, it’s not always easy to “sell yourself” without sounding a bit desperate, conceited, or worse -- coming off as a complete narcissist.
There are subtle ways to tell others about your great character and make your profile stand out from the millions of other singles out there, even those who are looking for the same things you are.
Fortunately, to ease some of your woes and get you going, I have four sweet, simple tips to help you create a phenomenal profile.
Don’t Blink on Leaving Anything Blank
To showcase who you really are when creating a profile on a dating site, take full advantage of all the features and tools that are available. If the site allows you to create a username, then by all means create one. Your username should be an attention-grabber -- something that’s on the creative side, draws the seeker in, and hooks them.
Don’t Sell Yourself Short, Honesty Really is the Best Policy
Chances are, if it’s hard to start a conversation in the real world, starting one online may have the same effect. The harder it is for someone to talk with you online, the more likely he or she will be to jump to the next profile in the dating pool. Make it easy for people to get to know the REAL YOU. Be open and honest when describing who you are and what you’re seeking in the perfect match. And if you find it in your heart to do so, let them know your plans for the future.
If traveling is in your plans, include it in your description. If you wish to start a family in the next five years or so, include that information. If you have plans to go back to school, include that in your description as well.
Take this for example:
Within the next year, I plan on exploring Brazil, the place with “the body of America and the soul of Africa;” eating dinner under the glistening lights of Parisian stars; and taking long-awaited walks on the trails of a Tanzanian safari.
This small, yet significant, description is packed with a major punch. It tells the reader that you love traveling, are open-minded, and love to explore the world, and that you are nature-friendly.
Including simple details like this makes an awesome entry point for a great conversation-starter. The reader may:
1. Open up the conversation with their mutual love for travel.
2. Show interest by asking about your upcoming trips.
3. Offer up their own personal pointers, tricks, and tips.
Stop It With All the Negativity, Already
No one wants to be in the company of a Negative Nancy. When talking about certain areas and aspects of your life, keep negative comments and language out of the equation. People tend to pick up on negative energy, and they will shy away from your profile all together. Remember to always put your “best attitude forward” when conveying what you seek in a potential partner.
Instead of saying, “If you lack energy, please don’t bother contacting me,” which is a bit harsh, try something on the softer side. Replace that with a statement like, “I’m looking for someone who is able to keep up with me in indulging my love for travel.”
Mix it Up a Little, Pictures Truly are Worth A Thousand Words
When it comes down to it, more than likely, readers will be drawn to your profile by the attractiveness of your picture. If the dating site allows you to upload more than one photo into a gallery, it goes without saying that choosing flattering photos will enhance readers’ interest.
When putting together your photo gallery, it may be tempting to choose photos that are similar -- for example, selecting all headshots -- but it does you a great disservice. It’s good to have a great-looking headshot as your profile picture, but it’s equally important to also use a full-body photo as well.
Mix it up a little. Your photos should tell a story not only of how you look, but of who you are. Select pictures that reveal your interests, personality, and even your sense of humor.
Though writing a dating profile may seem a bit daunting, it’s all about placing your authentic self out there and drawing the right person who is perfect for you. With a little time and effort, you can create a profile that sparks people’s interest and helps you stand out and get noticed.